Whom you love the most in your life? Don’t think too much, you love yourself the most, the thing is you might not have realized that and maybe you might have lied with someone that ‘I love you the most’, but that’s not the reality. ‘What’s wrong with loving yourself the most?’, nothing, but you must be aware that you love yourself the most, you are in blind love with yourself and you add ego with the word I and my.
Let’s get into an example: Suppose your friend drops his mobile phone, he immediately with fear picks the phone from the ground but the screen is cracked, he turns pale worried, angry, you can feel the situation. And you will be there saying, ‘Don’t worry, there is no point in worrying, worrying will not repair it’. Now the next day, if your phone drops and the screen gets cracked, you forget the dialogue you have given ‘Don’t worry, there is no point in worrying, worrying will not repair it’, and just start worrying the whole day. Why because ‘it’s my phone’. You are worried although worrying is worthless and it’s over because it’s yours. And you not only love yourself but everything that is linked with you and add the ego to that.
You proposed to a girl, and she rejects you. That’s normal, maybe she isn’t interested in you, but my dear friend you will not think anything like that, you will be angry, worried because it’s your proposal. Damn, yours!
You want your son/daughter to be successful because they are yours. You want your favorite film star to be another’s favorite too and your debate sometimes pointing out the good thing about your favorite film star, because it’s your favorite. You want your decision to be followed, you want your orders to be completed, you want your thoughts to be accepted. Unknowingly you increase debate on the particular thing because you want your thought to win. Damn, you cannot never ever win an argument, you just convince anyone for a short time that your thought was good with logic, so in real life winning an argument is losing an argument. When you love your idea the most and want it to be correct and superior over other ideas then how can you change their idea, equally lovable for them, isn’t it? So, you basically never win an argument. Just keep your ideas, don’t love your ideas so much that you start debating on them, yes, of course, you may try to convince them on your idea but don’t ever debate unless it’s a forum for debate and it’s essential.
Due to this obsession of self-love added with ego, you tend to create a lot of problems in life. Don’t get me wrong, self-love is not bad at all, but the obsessed self-love with ego is bad. Note that there is nothing permanent in this world, what you have today, your parents, friends, girlfriend, boyfriend, fame, money, house, car, and even thoughts you may not have tomorrow. So, there is no need of adding your ownness to them, they are there not yours. Your body is also not yours, don’t love it just take care of it.
Yes, don’t love your body. When you blindly love your body you cannot ever push your limitations. When you love your body a lot, how can you wake up early in the morning by making it uncomfortable to be productive? When you love your tongue, a part of the body so much, how can you disobey it and eat a not tasty but healthy diet? When you blindly love your body’s skin how can you get rid of sexual addiction that will push you back in productivity? So, basically the idea is don’t blindly love your body but take care of it. Use it to maximum and maximum. Our body becomes how you make it. If you over love it and make it lazy and it will be lazy. If you build a habit of sleeping 10 hours, it will need 10 hours daily to work efficiently and counters if you make your body active and sleep as little as 4-6hrs you can be fresh with even that less sleep. So use your body as a tool to achieve your dream, just don’t l
Why are you not able to get out of breakups easily? Because you broke up with yourself. How? Because it’s your choice, your love, your girl or boy, you have your ideas on them like he/she is the perfect one for me, is so caring, is so loving and so on. They are just your belief, and you have loved your belief so much that you cannot move on out of your own ideas. You think that I have loved them so much that I couldn’t move on but in fact, you are loving your own impressions, assumptions on him/her. Once you remove that impression you created from him/her you’re moving on will be quite easy.
Likewise, don’t get attached to anything so much, simply nothing. Attachment is the source of suffering sooner or later. Attachment to anything might seem so beautiful, joyful at the beginning but the more you are attached to anything, when you own anything mentally the more suffering you have to face when they become an individual and no more under your influence.